My mom is going to be 86 in June. My mom has dementia. My mom has been living in a memory care home for nearly 2 1/2 years. My mom recognizes me but I’m not sure she remembers that I’m her daughter. She now has 5 great grand-children but she doesn’t understand what that means. I have no way of knowing what’s going on in her mind because she’s lost the ability to put the right words together to make any sense.
I just received the March newsletter in the mail from the facility where she lives. My mom is the Resident Spotlight. Under her picture is says (I’ve left off some of the details for security) “Emily was born on ********* in Astoria, NY. She married Bob ***** in Oakland, CA in 1958. She has two daughters, **** and Robin. She enjoys spending time with people and loves interacting with animals. Fun Fact: She LOVES sweets!”
SHE’S SO MUCH MORE!!! This woman actually took off with a girlfriend in 1957 and drove around Europe for 3 months! And that’s just one of her many adventures.
Well, I found myself just staring at that photo of her as the Resident Spotlight and tears filled my eyes. I’ve heard it said before that with dementia or Alzheimers your parent is gone but not gone. And there are so many of us dealing with a beloved parent who is gone…but not gone. I visit my mom as often as I can but for some reason, seeing her in the monthly newsletter hit me. This nice old lady who gave me life, took great care of me, loved me, taught me to be kind and loving and gracious…well, I’m just sad.
Here I am fully immersed in the teachings of the Master Key Master Mind Alliance. Studying about the power within, the power of our thinking, and I wonder if this ‘thinking’ could possibly reduce the incidence of dementia in my generation. I’m going to say YES! The mind is more powerful than we may ever know.